Thankful?

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Photo Credit: ‘They May Have Been Heroes’ Jerry Tovo Photos Spotlight Fact That Homeless Vets Deserve Better. In light of Veteran’s day please check out his work. It is amazing!

You’ve seen them starting on Facebook, Friends with a daily post about what they are thankful for this season but what about kids? How do you raise thankful kids? I hate that my daughter asks for ever single toy she sees a commercial for! Doesn’t she know how lucky she is just to have a roof over her head or food in her tummy? Then it dawns on me no, no of course she doesn’t because she has only known those things and never the harsher reality that so many are faced with day to day. That was 2 years ago and since then I have worked hard to make sure my kids grow up giving back and appreciating what they do have.

Where to begin:

We started by teaching her a simple saying, you get what you get and you don’t throw a fit. Reminding her of this saying worked great for food she didn’t want to eat to toys she wanted and we wouldn’t buy her.

Next we took her with to help give back. We have done everything from bell ringing for the Salvation Army to picking a name from the giving tree and letting her pick out the gift to give away to them. There are hundreds of ways even small children can get involved. Our daughter was only 3 when we started taking her along and did great.

This past summer I made her help me make blessing bags for the cars. We tend to have a lot of homeless people on street corners in the summer and this was the perfect opportunity to help her understand what it really meant when we told her people at the soup kitchen or shelters didn’t have a home. When we stopped I would have my daughter get out and give them a bag. What happened was more than I could have ever imagined. She didn’t see the dirt on their clothes or the unshaven sun-beaten faces. She saw a person no different than her just out enjoying the day. She engaged them in conversation asking what they were doing, why they were doing that, how old they were, if they had kids, if she could pet the puppy, the puppy’s name etc. I thought I would teach her something by this experience but instead she taught me and I am so grateful for the lesson. Handing a bag to a stranger full of necessities is one thing but treating them like a person is the world. As an adult it is hard to see past all of the outer layers but as a child she doesn’t see differences. I wish to be more like her and so today I am thankful to have such an amazing little girl.

I plan to continue this daily the whole year in a journal not only for me but the entire family (or at least my daughter and Nate since Ryder is too young to understand.)

I also became aware of an amazing website: http://womensimpact.org/ If you feel the need to give back check out the post from people on this site who are in need. Some are in need of informational type help others are looking for help to get clothing or coats for their kids. You don’t need to help financially to make a difference and this page gives a ton of options to help others. For those who have nothing to give except knowledge or expertise there are women out there that need your help. Check it out. 🙂

Happy Veteran’s Day!

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This is Dobri Dovrev, a 98 year old Vet that lost his hearing in WWII.

Everyday he walks 10kms from his home to Sofia where he spends

all day begging for money. He then donates every  last penny he

collects toward the restoration of decaying Bulgarian Monasteries

and churches and the utility bills of orphanages. He has donated

over 40,000 Euros leaving him to live off his monthly state pension

of just 80 Euros! He is a hero through and through.

Have you helped a veteran today?

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So finally going through and organizing some photos when I ran across my sweet baby boy’s first birthday pics. Where does the time go?  Our birth photographer had taken a photo of him in front of the clock at his birth time 7:31 AM and at 24 hrs old and now I have one with him at the exact time a year later but what happened to all those hours, minutes and seconds in between I have no idea!

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Note: Never leave children alone unsupervised with balloons. Luckily my son has never been one to put things in his mouth but still I watched like a hawk as we took these photos. He thought they were balls and was more interested in throwing them than eating them but accidents can happen in a matter of seconds so please be proactive. Thanks!

What a Wonderful Idea!

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I think I will try to do this for friends and family this year! I unfortunately won’t be doing this for the littles since I have already purchased most of their gifts but will definitely keep it in mind for next year. Look out Etsy, here I come! Along with Etsy Nicole’s Fine Pastry is definitely on my short list for gift ideas as well as K & Krafts and Just Grains for those with dietary restrictions on my list. 🙂

What about you?

If you have any great ideas for handmade/homemade/local gifts we would love to hear from you, leave us a comment.

Messing with God’s Plan

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*The views and opinions expressed in this post are solely my own and do not reflect that of any other contributor to Besties With A Blog.

I have been debating about posting this because I know it’s going to enrage many but it has been weighing on my mind since I saw a certain Facebook page. There is a couple in Utah that has been dealing with infertility for 8 years. They decided to use in vitro fertilization to conceive. Now they are expecting Quads. The whole page was about fundraising and media coverage which led me to think shame on you for using this to get your 15 minutes and bringing life into the world you can’t support. Now the new development is one set of twins has twin to twin transfusion syndrome and they had to be flown out to CA to do surgery ( another cost they can’t afford) which sounds like it went well.  In all of the post they say “send prayers” and “thank God” but it all seems a little hypocritical to me.

If they really believe in God maybe they should have taken their infertility as a sign that this wasn’t the path God had in store for them but instead they made a baby in a lab where I promise God was nowhere to be found. I have seen this story a hundred times where people have taken the miracle of life into their own hands and had complications every step of the way. When it starts to get rough the prayers soon follow but praying to God for a path he did not create for you seems senseless to me.  Maybe there is a reason you couldn’t conceive. It is beyond the scope of whether we can play god making children that otherwise wouldn’t exist but should we? Perhaps  your path was one of adoption or fostering but because doctors have the capability of offering you a child of your own image you abandoned these needs for a selfish egotistical route. Who are you really helping by IVF? Not the baby the drug addict burned with her cigarette that is now in foster care, not the little boy who lost both his parents to war and is living in an orphanage with less than 10 minutes of human contact a day, not that twin that isn’t receiving enough nutrients to survive due to TTTS. I really do wish the best for this family and I will pray for those unborn babies that did nothing had had no choice but I will not pray for those that so blatantly disregard consequences of playing God.  How many stories like this do we need to hear before realizing IVF is unbelievably selfish and it’s time to trust God?

It is situations like this that make me want to vote yes on amendments like Measure 1 taking away physicians ability to preform IVF (see this letter from Dr. Stephanie Dahl on the impact of Measure 1 to IVF). At the same time I would be voting to take away a women’s right to choose which I don’t agree with. Regardless this is not a pro-choice debate. It is a comment on how reckless physicians and want-to-be parents are becoming. Implanting multiple embryos when the patients/potential parents are in no way capable of providing for the number of embryos they are implanting not to mention the risk to mom and babies of this behavior. Just because you can do something doesn’t mean you should! The most recent post on their FB page was a photo of Jesus and more prayer talk, it disgusts me. You don’t get to pick and choose in what hour of need you turn to the lord and what time you turn to science. Their belief is faulty at best and their faith nonexistent as far as I can tell. Quadfather (as he has started calling himself) you really are a selfish miscreant douche!

John 7:24 Judge not according to the appearance, but judge righteous judgment.

Proverbs 3:5-6 “Trust in the LORD with all your heart; and lean not upon your own understanding. In all your ways acknowledge him, and he shall direct your path.”

Jeremiah 29:11 “For I know the plans I have for you,” declares the LORD, “plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future.”

Psalm 118:8 “It is better to trust in the LORD than to put confidence in man.”

Matthew 13:1-23 Two groups of believers are seen, one true and one false.

Peter 2:1 But there were false prophets also among the people, even as there shall be false prophets among you, who privately bring in damnable heresies, even denying the Lord that bought them, and bring upon themselves swift destruction.

Timothy 3:5 Having a form of godliness, but denying the power thereof: from such turn away.

Jude 1:12-13 These people are blemishes at your love feasts, eating with you without the slightest qualm—shepherds who feed only themselves. They are clouds without rain, blown along by the wind; autumn trees, without fruit and uprooted—twice dead. 13 They are wild waves of the sea, foaming up their shame; wandering stars, for whom blackest darkness has been reserved forever.

Here are some stories that are truly worth reading from people who aren’t looking for fame only sharing experiences and hope:

What It Looks Like To Let God Plan Your Family

But Why Does She Get Babies?

Making a Baby is the Hardest Thing I Have Ever Done

My Infertility Journey : Lessons Learned

Infertility, Miscarriage, and the Gospel