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I have been debating about posting this because I know it’s going to enrage many but it has been weighing on my mind since I saw a certain Facebook page. There is a couple in Utah that has been dealing with infertility for 8 years. They decided to use in vitro fertilization to conceive. Now they are expecting Quads. The whole page was about fundraising and media coverage which led me to think shame on you for using this to get your 15 minutes and bringing life into the world you can’t support. Now the new development is one set of twins has twin to twin transfusion syndrome and they had to be flown out to CA to do surgery ( another cost they can’t afford) which sounds like it went well. In all of the post they say “send prayers” and “thank God” but it all seems a little hypocritical to me.
If they really believe in God maybe they should have taken their infertility as a sign that this wasn’t the path God had in store for them but instead they made a baby in a lab where I promise God was nowhere to be found. I have seen this story a hundred times where people have taken the miracle of life into their own hands and had complications every step of the way. When it starts to get rough the prayers soon follow but praying to God for a path he did not create for you seems senseless to me. Maybe there is a reason you couldn’t conceive. It is beyond the scope of whether we can play god making children that otherwise wouldn’t exist but should we? Perhaps your path was one of adoption or fostering but because doctors have the capability of offering you a child of your own image you abandoned these needs for a selfish egotistical route. Who are you really helping by IVF? Not the baby the drug addict burned with her cigarette that is now in foster care, not the little boy who lost both his parents to war and is living in an orphanage with less than 10 minutes of human contact a day, not that twin that isn’t receiving enough nutrients to survive due to TTTS. I really do wish the best for this family and I will pray for those unborn babies that did nothing had had no choice but I will not pray for those that so blatantly disregard consequences of playing God. How many stories like this do we need to hear before realizing IVF is unbelievably selfish and it’s time to trust God?
It is situations like this that make me want to vote yes on amendments like Measure 1 taking away physicians ability to preform IVF (see this letter from Dr. Stephanie Dahl on the impact of Measure 1 to IVF). At the same time I would be voting to take away a women’s right to choose which I don’t agree with. Regardless this is not a pro-choice debate. It is a comment on how reckless physicians and want-to-be parents are becoming. Implanting multiple embryos when the patients/potential parents are in no way capable of providing for the number of embryos they are implanting not to mention the risk to mom and babies of this behavior. Just because you can do something doesn’t mean you should! The most recent post on their FB page was a photo of Jesus and more prayer talk, it disgusts me. You don’t get to pick and choose in what hour of need you turn to the lord and what time you turn to science. Their belief is faulty at best and their faith nonexistent as far as I can tell. Quadfather (as he has started calling himself) you really are a selfish miscreant douche!
John 7:24 Judge not according to the appearance, but judge righteous judgment.
Proverbs 3:5-6 “Trust in the LORD with all your heart; and lean not upon your own understanding. In all your ways acknowledge him, and he shall direct your path.”
Jeremiah 29:11 “For I know the plans I have for you,” declares the LORD, “plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future.”
Psalm 118:8 “It is better to trust in the LORD than to put confidence in man.”
Matthew 13:1-23 Two groups of believers are seen, one true and one false.
Peter 2:1 But there were false prophets also among the people, even as there shall be false prophets among you, who privately bring in damnable heresies, even denying the Lord that bought them, and bring upon themselves swift destruction.
Timothy 3:5 Having a form of godliness, but denying the power thereof: from such turn away.
Jude 1:12-13 These people are blemishes at your love feasts, eating with you without the slightest qualm—shepherds who feed only themselves. They are clouds without rain, blown along by the wind; autumn trees, without fruit and uprooted—twice dead. 13 They are wild waves of the sea, foaming up their shame; wandering stars, for whom blackest darkness has been reserved forever.
Here are some stories that are truly worth reading from people who aren’t looking for fame only sharing experiences and hope:
What It Looks Like To Let God Plan Your Family
But Why Does She Get Babies?
Making a Baby is the Hardest Thing I Have Ever Done
My Infertility Journey : Lessons Learned
Infertility, Miscarriage, and the Gospel